| Loaner's Remorse? A conversation between Juan | | | | benevolence. It will enable you to keep the faith and |
| Carlos and a billionaire named Yu. | | | | continue giving graciously, cheerfully. The mistake most |
| | | | people make in giving is to expect the positive return |
| (Excerpt from: "My Friend Yu - The Prosperity | | | | to come from the one, particular beneficiary (or |
| Mentor," copyright Carl Pantejo 2007 - Y.N. Vurce | | | | beneficiaries) of their good deed. It doesn't usually |
| Publishing. | | | | happen that way. |
| Note: In this article The Original Substance is the name | | | | The Original Substance keeps perfect "karmic |
| used for: GOD, The One, Gaya, Infinite Intelligence, The | | | | accounting records." Sometimes many little good |
| Universe, etc. Please substitute this name with | | | | deeds on your part are "saved up," then a huge |
| whatever name/word you are comfortable with. | | | | positive return from the universe is given to you |
| A conversation between Juan Carlos "J.C." and a | | | | (usually in the form of something you really needed |
| billionaire named Yu: | | | | and always at the perfect time). It is inevitable. So, |
| …Even though I have a Master of Business | | | | never feel taken advantage of or get into a |
| Administration degree, I chronically found myself in the | | | | depressed state over possibly giving something to |
| same situation: Too much month left over after the | | | | someone that might have been undeserving. Just give |
| money. My friends thought I was a sap, too nice all the | | | | and let it go. The Original Substance always |
| time. It's just that when I saw someone in need, I felt | | | | remembers the spirit in which your gifts were given |
| compelled to help. Here in Thailand, it seemed that | | | | and, in its wonderful and surprising way, rewards you |
| EVERYONE WAS IS NEED! IN NEED OF MY | | | | with a magnified return of the perfect goodness for |
| MONEY! Crying women would come over to my | | | | you, at the perfect time for you. |
| apartment and tell me all their troubles. I believed about | | | | One caveat: If the same people are chronically in need |
| one-half of those tales of woe. | | | | of your financial help and have grown always to |
| "…In Asia, unless you are a bank or a loan | | | | depend on you instead of trying to help themselves, |
| shark, it's common knowledge that there's really no | | | | then this is not a crisis; it is a condition, a negative |
| such thing as "loaning money" to people you know, you | | | | condition. In such instances, the best thing to do is |
| simply give it. If they pay you back, fine; but realistically, | | | | show them how to better themselves. You're not |
| you shouldn't expect to ever get it back. Consequently, | | | | doing them (or you) any good when you nurture that |
| I ended up giving, not loaning, a lot of my meager | | | | kind of disempowering dependency. It's the classic |
| teacher's salary to those people I believed were telling | | | | "give a man a fish" principle. |
| me the truth about their current crisis. Unfortunately for | | | | So what if some people were dishonest and accepted |
| me, and I'm sure you've noticed this too; almost all | | | | your money on false pretenses? You may never |
| Asians believe that all foreigners are wealthy, "Walking | | | | know; so let it go. Why waste time, energy, and |
| ATM's"! This lead to most of the recipients to not | | | | emotion on an issue that may, or may not be true? |
| repaying any money back at all; even when they were | | | | And if you find out later that, yes, you were taken in |
| able to; because those foreigners are all rich and don't | | | | by a con artist, don't hold a grudge. FORGIVE THEM - |
| need the money anyway." I said, with the bitterness | | | | NOT FOR THEM, BUT FOR YOU. THERE'S |
| that comes from "loaner's remorse." | | | | NOTHING POSITIVE FOR YOU IN KEEPING THE |
| "J.C., first off; don't let your friends make you feel like | | | | NEGATIVITY INSIDE. HARBORING NEGATIVITY |
| you've been a patsy, a pawn that unscrupulous people | | | | WILL ONLY ATTRACT MORE NEGATIVITY. Rest |
| have manipulated in the past. Your friends have a | | | | assured. The Universe will still remember your true |
| narrow view of the Universe. And you need not feel | | | | intentions and reward you; while returning an |
| depressed at the "lost money" you gave away. If you | | | | appropriate, magnified payback to the wrongdoer. |
| gave it away with goodness, a truly honest aim to help | | | | Acting on true, honest intention is your job. Doing things |
| another human being in a real crisis (no ulterior motives, | | | | in the Certain Way is you job. Fulfilling your desires and |
| no strings attached); you will surely get a magnified, | | | | managing consequences is the Original Substance's |
| return of goodness back from the Universe. It may not | | | | job. In the end, it's all good…" |
| be from the same person you helped; but from | | | | (Excerpt from: "My Friend Yu - The Prosperity |
| someone else they positively affected, or the person | | | | Mentor," copyright Carl Pantejo 2007 -Y.N. Vurce |
| of the person they affected. It is okay to know that | | | | Publishing. |
| (and expect) a return of goodness from your | | | | |