| Loaner's Remorse? A conversation between Juan | | | | affected, or the person of the person they |
| Carlos and a billionaire named Yu. | | | | affected. It is okay to know that (and |
| | | | expect) a return of goodness from your |
| | | | benevolence. It will enable you to keep the |
| | | | faith and continue giving graciously, |
| (Excerpt from: "My Friend Yu - The | | | | cheerfully. The mistake most people make in |
| Prosperity Mentor," copyright Carl Pantejo | | | | giving is to expect the positive return to |
| 2007 - Y.N. Vurce Publishing. | | | | come from the one, particular beneficiary (or |
| | | | beneficiaries) of their good deed. It |
| Note: In this article The Original Substance | | | | doesn't usually happen that way. |
| is the name used for: GOD, The One, Gaya, | | | | |
| Infinite Intelligence, The Universe, etc. | | | | The Original Substance keeps perfect "karmic |
| Please substitute this name with whatever | | | | accounting records." Sometimes many little |
| name/word you are comfortable with. | | | | good deeds on your part are "saved up," then |
| | | | a huge positive return from the universe is |
| A conversation between Juan Carlos "J.C." and | | | | given to you (usually in the form of |
| a billionaire named Yu: | | | | something you really needed and always at the |
| | | | perfect time). It is inevitable. So, never |
| …Even though I have a Master of | | | | feel taken advantage of or get into a |
| Business Administration degree, I chronically | | | | depressed state over possibly giving |
| found myself in the same situation: Too much | | | | something to someone that might have been |
| month left over after the money. My friends | | | | undeserving. Just give and let it go. The |
| thought I was a sap, too nice all the time. | | | | Original Substance always remembers the |
| It's just that when I saw someone in need, I | | | | spirit in which your gifts were given and, in |
| felt compelled to help. Here in Thailand, it | | | | its wonderful and surprising way, rewards you |
| seemed that EVERYONE WAS IS NEED! IN NEED OF | | | | with a magnified return of the perfect |
| MY MONEY! Crying women would come over to my | | | | goodness for you, at the perfect time for |
| apartment and tell me all their troubles. I | | | | you. |
| believed about one-half of those tales of | | | | |
| woe. | | | | One caveat: If the same people are |
| | | | chronically in need of your financial help |
| "…In Asia, unless you are a bank or a | | | | and have grown always to depend on you |
| loan shark, it's common knowledge that | | | | instead of trying to help themselves, then |
| there's really no such thing as "loaning | | | | this is not a crisis; it is a condition, a |
| money" to people you know, you simply give | | | | negative condition. In such instances, the |
| it. If they pay you back, fine; but | | | | best thing to do is show them how to better |
| realistically, you shouldn't expect to ever | | | | themselves. You're not doing them (or you) |
| get it back. Consequently, I ended up | | | | any good when you nurture that kind of |
| giving, not loaning, a lot of my meager | | | | disempowering dependency. It's the classic |
| teacher's salary to those people I believed | | | | "give a man a fish" principle. |
| were telling me the truth about their current | | | | |
| crisis. Unfortunately for me, and I'm sure | | | | So what if some people were dishonest and |
| you've noticed this too; almost all Asians | | | | accepted your money on false pretenses? You |
| believe that all foreigners are wealthy, | | | | may never know; so let it go. Why waste |
| "Walking ATM's"! This lead to most of the | | | | time, energy, and emotion on an issue that |
| recipients to not repaying any money back at | | | | may, or may not be true? And if you find out |
| all; even when they were able to; because | | | | later that, yes, you were taken in by a con |
| those foreigners are all rich and don't need | | | | artist, don't hold a grudge. FORGIVE THEM - |
| the money anyway." I said, with the | | | | NOT FOR THEM, BUT FOR YOU. THERE'S NOTHING |
| bitterness that comes from "loaner's | | | | POSITIVE FOR YOU IN KEEPING THE NEGATIVITY |
| remorse." | | | | INSIDE. HARBORING NEGATIVITY WILL ONLY |
| | | | ATTRACT MORE NEGATIVITY. Rest assured. The |
| "J.C., first off; don't let your friends make | | | | Universe will still remember your true |
| you feel like you've been a patsy, a pawn | | | | intentions and reward you; while returning an |
| that unscrupulous people have manipulated in | | | | appropriate, magnified payback to the |
| the past. Your friends have a narrow view of | | | | wrongdoer. Acting on true, honest intention |
| the Universe. And you need not feel | | | | is your job. Doing things in the Certain Way |
| depressed at the "lost money" you gave away. | | | | is you job. Fulfilling your desires and |
| If you gave it away with goodness, a truly | | | | managing consequences is the Original |
| honest aim to help another human being in a | | | | Substance's job. In the end, it's all |
| real crisis (no ulterior motives, no strings | | | | good…" |
| attached); you will surely get a magnified, | | | | |
| return of goodness back from the Universe. | | | | (Excerpt from: "My Friend Yu - The |
| It may not be from the same person you | | | | Prosperity Mentor," copyright Carl Pantejo |
| helped; but from someone else they positively | | | | 2007 -Y.N. Vurce Publishing. |